Showing posts with label issue 9. Show all posts
Showing posts with label issue 9. Show all posts

Monday, May 28, 2007

Issue 9

Welcome to Issue 9!

This weeks challenge for our writers was to write about "the path you didn't take" which has inspired these lovely posts.

Amanda from The Wink flirts with 'What If?'
Evelyn from homespun Honolulu looks at what to do when our lives don't take the path we expected.
Thomas Hamburger takes us through some his characters, Harry Fry's, life mistakes,

and last but certainly not least this weeks feature piece and winner of the Blog of the Week award, a rather off topic but thoroughly engaging piece by Lady MacLeod from Braveheart Does the Maghreb.

Our usual music guru and writer of the Voices to Hear column, John Holland, seems to have gone AWOL this week and so I have stepped into the breach, so to speak, to bring you a lovely sound track to read this blog to.

As always, each and every post you can see on this page is part of this weeks issue, so go and grab yourself a cup of tea, put your feet up and take a leisurely stroll through this weeks posts; scroll right down to the bottom, leave some comments for our writers and click on over to see them at their own blogs for more of their great writing.

A Day In The Life

Written by Lady MacLeod from Braveheart Does The Maghreb


Morocco, Fez, 0600hrs local time

We went to bed last evening at nine p.m. local time, beaten down and wasted by days of relentless heat. The online thermostats from CNN said it was 100 degrees Fahrenheit with 18% humidity this day, but you know those people weren't here – it was hotter than that.

Q had spent the morning at classes, and attended luncheon with her fellow students while I tried to weave my tale and catch up on my email box. We did the proper and only sensible, Moroccan custom of remaining indoors and quiet from one to
three p.m. Truly even the dogs are louder at night. During that period in the afternoon you must strain to hear the sounds of traffic or any life at all. The heat lies heavy on the city, smothering it in a blanket of dust and lethargy. The dogs crawl under the houses, the cats find shade under a bush, and the people go indoors. The shops close, and the city appears to have been deserted as if there was some sort of evacuation of all life.

At three, we set out to hail a Petite Taxi to take us to the other side of town to the French Mall of Marjane, which is well and blissfully air conditioned. As we strolled slowly (yes, even my Highlander pace was taken to task), up and down the aisles basking in the cool air, we both made note we were right in tune with the other shoppers. Acquiring items on a list did not appear to be as urgent as the need for relief from the outside furnace.

We had great fun translating and interpreting the prices and descriptions of the items we needed, and some we just found irresistible – yes, of course, it was books.
Tara found a replacement for her worn French dictionary and a new Koran (I left mine in the States). I found some lovely French children's books to help my 'gutter French' back up to speed. In spite of the horror of my linguistically gifted offspring I do quite well with my polyglot of languages.

Basket loaded with a pair of big fluffy bed pillows, a case of water, an iron, towels, a lighter, milk, yogurt, bread, honey, batteries, pillowcases for said pillows, a bag of walnuts, notebooks, and pencils, we left the nirvana like coolness of the mall (after convincing the lovely young woman at the check-out that someone with as honest a face as I did not really need my passport to use my credit card…) to find another taxi. Alas! Arriving in the parking lot at the proper station, I mean hey, there is a sign; there was not a taxi to be seen. "Well, this never happens," we both said wilting once again. Fortunately we did not have to wait long for not one, but three, then four, and five taxis to arrive unloading five and six persons from the tiny compartments meant to hold three at most. The polite, and handsome young man who was waiting before us most gallantly offered us the first car, and we piled all our goodies inside and squished ourselves amongst them for the ride back to the villa. The most notable sight along the way was the gathering of the 'men' at the outdoor cafes all along the streets, and the rare appearance of a couple of women scattered here and there among them. They had gathered in large plazas and small corners, tables close together, men three and eight to a table all facing out toward the street, drinking their tea and coffee. Talking and gesturing with great emphases; methinks the Moors and the Romans have some common linguistic ground when it comes to speaking with their hands. In almost every neighborhood we saw laundry and satellite dishes on the roofs, terraces, and out the windows. Washing machines are common, but dryers are not considered necessary. Electricity is at a premium.

It was not cooler, but warmer once we had unloaded and unpacked, and arranged and put- away our new items of comfort and necessity. Food? Not worth the trouble, not in this heat. Tea for me! Even Q, who can eat and sleep in almost any circumstance had only a bit of bread and honey.


That grey 'mist' I had seen this morning was sand suspended in the air. There was a huge sand storm that had been blowing in toward the city for days. The worst of it was over, but as we came further inland to
Fez it is hanging still in the air.

I woke this morning at 0230hrs and have been unable to get back to sleep. The heat is too much for me at this point. Q was restless and finally around 0330 hrs, we both gave up and got out of bed to hit the computers and do a bit of work. I made some tea, the universal panacea of the British for all ills. Q arranged the fan with a pan of water in front of it hoping to get some moisture in the air. We opened up our doors onto the patio, and just went with it. We heard the calls to prayer ringing through the city at 0400hrs. She meandered back to bed around 0530hrs, and is sleeping peacefully.

I went out to the patio with my tea to get some relief and noted a strong and quite cool (it is all relative right, cool being around 75 to 80 degrees) breeze. Well sports fans I took myself into the back hallway and managed to get that big double window open and the wooden blinds pushed back. There is now a lovely strong breeze blowing in from the east pushing out the hot air from last night. Ta da. I knew that whole high I.Q., intellect crap would come in handy someday! No, I do not have any idea if I can get the wooden blinds back in; but at this point I don't care.

Flirting With 'What If'

Written by Amanda from The Wink

I'm a romantic. A sucker for chick flicks and the touch the feel of cotton commercials, I've never met a TLC's baby show that didn't make me weep happy tears. Can't get enough. I am not, however, a radio romantic. I never called in a request, never wrote to Casey Kasem, and never had a song spur me to contact a lost love. I'm not that kind of romantic.

Most people have done it at some point or another. You're cruising along in your car and a song comes on, maybe it's the Garth Brooks song about unanswered prayers, or maybe it's Kelly Clarkson ranting about life "Since You Been Gone," and you find yourself thinking back to another time, another person. Another life entirely. I'll admit to having done it, but never enjoying it.

The closet holding my what if's is a dark, spare place, a hole really. The edges are jagged and the inside dank. Just thinking of placing my hand on the door sends a chill down my spine, and I can almost hear the whispering again--

Bad news.

What a shame.

Slumming.

You think she knows?

It's going to be a long wait.

Not my girlfriend.

The closet taught me about loathing and cruelty, loneliness and regret. It introduced me to estrangement and isolation. The closet was not a nice place.

So when I hear the songs of longing for romances of day's gone by I change the channel. The stories of drunken calls to exes? I can't begin to relate.

When I think of what if I think about a silent ride. I think about smokey bars, fast cars and waiting. Always waiting for the phone to ring. Waiting for the words not to pierce me. Waiting for the hate to pass. What if is a dodged bullet in ways that make me tremble.

Living a life now filled with princesses and faeries, when what if does come haunting I imagine missing the fairy tale. The reality is the path that I didn't take was in all likelihood a very short path. There would have been no wedding, mine or my children's. There would have been no honeymoon hikes on sunny mountains, no breathless midnight declarations of a baby on the way. If I'd not taken the leap, there would have been no Sean. No best friend and lover, and never father of beautiful girls. Our Briar and Avery would be but unrealized magic.

The path I didn't take is my greatest joy. Not taking it delivered me to the life I was meant to live, my fairy tale.

We've All Got Choices

Written by Thomas Hamburger Jnr from Harry McFry Investigates

If anyone ever told Harry McFry he could make choices in life, then he’s forgotten. Sometimes, he feels like he’s just drifting through life. That’s why, at the age of 46, Harry finds himself confronting his former lover in a bar in Madrid, having met her for the first time in five years. There’s a lot going on that Harry doesn’t seem to understand … it’s all just, well… a bit beyond him. He’s out of his depth, swimming against a tide of history he’s never fully acknowledged. Which is strange, for a former historian.

But that’s Harry for you. He likes to think he’s ‘sorted’, even though there’s a string of people (mainly women) who would gladly take to the dock to attest differently.

Just now, he’s working on a case that’s looking like the kind of mystery you wouldn’t want the responsibility of solving. It’s family stuff – hidden secrets, jealousies, fears and even a bit of hatred all mashed up together. And it all started with a phone call from young Laurel McFry (no relation) who had ‘lost’ her family. Except it wasn’t quite as simple as that…

Now, he finds himself confronting some uncomfortable things from his own family past. A brother who’s managed (somehow) not to mention to Harry that he’s taken up with his ex-girlfriend’s sister. What kind of brother does a thing like that?

Meanwhile, there’s a 102 year old woman in Shropshire, England, who holds the key to the mystery of Laurel’s missing family. She won’t be around much longer (that’s an actuarial certainty), and Harry McFry knows it.

Things might have all been very different if, five years ago, he hadn’t walked out on Ana. She’s got her own secrets (of course) and her own reasons for keeping them from Harry. She’d be the first to say that Harry had a choice when he left her, even if, to him, it hadn’t seemed like a choice at all. Any objective reader of Harry’s story would conclude that the path he took was the wrong one. In fact, (if truth be known) he’s beginning to think that, himself. So there’s hope yet, for Harry…

Sometimes it takes the mess of someone else’s family to make you realize these things. That’s family history for you. If you think you can help Harry solve the mystery of the missing family, then you’re welcome to join him. He might just need a push, if he’s to find the right path.

Thomas Hamburger Jnr has been writing Harry McFry Investigates since the end of January 2007. Variously described as ‘derivative drivel’ and ‘inspired’, the story is about to reach what just may be an exciting conclusion. This is Thomas Hamburger Jnr’s first attempt at fiction, and he has chosen to write it via a blog because (as he says) ‘blogs are the enemy of procrastination’.

What Do I Do With My Life?

Written by Evelyn from Homespun Honolulu


Everyone has those moments when they think about the one thing they could have done or should have done. I know I have a couple of things that some to mind from the past. “What if I had turned the other way?” or the host of I-shouldn’t-have-done-that’s that we all have.

If you look at the big picture and wait long enough some of those what ifs work their way out. Then you can say, “I made the right choice,” or “Right now I would be…” or something equally enlightening. Over time you may find that you’ve avoided a host of other pains that would have taken their toll on the person you are now. Obviously it might also go the other way and that’s when regret sets in so we only hope for the right decision at the right time!

Personally, I started out with a plan! At the age of ten I had made my decision. I was going to be a veterinarian. There was no question, no doubts and no arguments. No doubts that is until the second year of college chemistry. Ugh! I hadn’t even touched the physics requirement yet and I hated that in high school. Now throw in the labs and caloric calculations of animal feed and I have just about had it! I failed the first exam in animal nutrition class. That’s it, now I have had it!

“What am I going to do?” I cried to my mother on the phone.

“What do you want to do?” was her reply.

College was something I had to complete. I couldn’t leave it. I had to do something! Where were my best grades? Must find those report cards and the grades received to date! Would it be history like both of my parents? Hell no! The best grades were in… English. Okay so I will major in English. I managed to pull a “C” out of that Animal Nutrition course but it wasn’t easy!

But, vet school is what I wanted to do! What am I going to do with an English major? Be a teacher too? Just like my parents? A change in major can cost you an extra year of college if you don’t do it soon enough. After five years and my whole life already in school, I wanted to move on to more than another two years of school in the College of Education!

Now I look at those college choices and know I couldn’t have been happy as a veterinarian. I would not be happy dealing with the human element, the grief of lost pets, and money thrown out the window on vet bills with only a carcass to show for it. I know that sounds crude but I have had to deal with that myself. It hurts! My point here is that dealing with my own pain is easier for me when I don’t have to deal with the pain of others – the other people’s pain hurts more. Would I be making more money? Oh yeah! But I don’t think I would be happy and money can’t fix a person on the inside.

To live life and say you have no regrets would either be a lie, self-denial or just plain arrogant. We all have them guys; get over it. Love yourself and love life – there’s no other one like the one you’ve got! Did I make the right choice where my profession was concerned? I can comfortably say yes. If I hadn’t I wouldn’t be mucking around the blogosphere and talking to you guys. Now THAT would not be acceptable! I’ve finally got a use for that damn English major! I told you these things work their way out if you give them time.

Evelyn from Homespun Honolulu shares thoughts about the past while thinking of the next item to share with her readers, something that represents a unique and different look at Honolulu. Not what you might expect from what you’ve seen or heard from the tourist industry.

Voices to Hear

John, your usual man in the know about all things musical, seems to have gone missing in action (along with several other TopBlogMag writers this week) so I am trying, not very successfully I’m sure, to fill his shoes this week.

As many of you are aware, I really do live in a little wooden house in the middle of a forest in northern Europe where, to be completely blunt about it, the music selection on the radio, sucks. Hence the reason, on my recent trip back home, I was very excited about ‘discovering’ the amazing, haunting voice of Katie Melua.

Yeah, yeah, I know. You’ve all been listening to her for years and as I heard her on the radio she’s not exactly ‘little known’, but hey, she was to me and so therefore maybe to some of you as well.

Born in Georgia (the country not the state) Katie and her family moved to the UK when she was 8 years old where she got her first taste of fame at age 15 by entering and winning a televised competition called ‘Stars Up Their Nose’. Since then, Katie has developed her talent into the spine tingling sound you can hear, for free, at her myspace page, a great sound track to put your feet up to and read through the rest of this weeks entries here at TopBlogMag.

Featured Post and Blog of the Week



You Are Here

by Amie from
MammaLoves...


You did well in school to get into college. You tried to get by well enough in college to be attractive to an employer or graduate program, and along the way you may have opened your heart a time or two. Maybe you even found true love.

With a foot in the door, the first years of work were the time to
prove your mettle once again. Promotions, raises all with the goal to secure your future will allow you to settle down, buy a house, travel, commit to a relationship, have kids or not. In what feels like a blink of an eye, your future is here.

And now what?


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Chance Favors Only Those Who Court Her

by Debbie from Missives from Suburbia


After a less-than-friendly divorce, I was on the market again. Seizing the opportunity, my friends scoured their address books and Palm Pilots for single men and set me up on blind date after blind date. My reaction to most of those dates was, "I call these people my FRIENDS?" One of my real friends suggested Match.com, and given how much I love the Internet, I gave it a go.

A couple months of e-dating passed by in a blink. It was fun, but so far nothing meaningful had hit my radar, and my match inventory was starting to run low. You see, Match.com "matches" you to people based on a list of your requirements, and I'd pretty much run through all my existing matches who didn't seem psycho or stoned, based on their profiles.

Then, one day, I got an email from a guy who was not a match by my standards...

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A Lost Opportunity

by John from Altjiranga Mitjina


Trying to break in as a writer in the comic book industry can be a bit like the one legged man in a butt kicking contest. Every step forward you make means you land on your butt after your kick forward. Comic books are a visual medium. An artist can bring a portfolio to an editor at a convention and said editor can sit there and look at it within minutes and decide if this artist is worthy of working on the newest issue of Stupendous Man or not. Trying being a hopeful writer handing over a script to this same editor at a busy comic convention. You’ll be lucky if the editor agrees to take the script and promise that they’ll look at it later. Most times the hopeful writer is told to send for their submission guidelines and mail in their proposal.

The best way for a writer is to find an aspiring artist and hook up...

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Jesus Toothpaste!

by Karen Rayne from Adolescent Sexuality Today with Karen Rayne, Ph.D.


This weekend I went out of town, leaving my family to fend for themselves. On Saturday, my darling husband took my two darling daughters – 6 and 3 years old – to what he heard was a fun new toy store in town. Great, right?

They walk in the door, and the 6-year-old pipes up with “Look, Daddy! Jesus toothpaste!” He takes one look, puts one hand on each girl’s shoulder, and does a 180 out of the store. It may be a fun new toy store, but it’s intended clientele does not include the under-13 set.

When I got home on Sunday, the first thing the 6-year-old says to me was, “Guess what! We saw Jesus toothpaste!” I blinked, figuring I hadn’t heard her correctly. Regrettably, I had...

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A biker, a green thumb, a cracked hand, and a Queen.

by Megan from Velveteen Mind, originally guest posted at Queen of Spain


A random biker on a Harley-Davidson took my picture last week. What I wanted to do was take his picture, but I hesitated. Now, instead of a photo of some random biker holding an i am bossy.com bumper sticker, all I have is a lame photo of me holding the bumper sticker and the mental picture of him riding off into the sunset, never to be seen again.

Okay, it wasn’t as romantic or dramatic as that. It was nine in the morning and there was no sunset.

This is not the first time that I have hesitated to seize an opportunity. I don’t expect it will be the last. However, I hope with each lost chance for something intriguing, I will lose a shade of that hesitation for next time...

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